Valentine’s Day
Sunday, February 13th, 2011
Valentine’s Day (aka Saint Valentine’s Day) is an annual commemoration held on the 14th of February each year to celebrate love and affection between intimate companions. The day is named after one or more early Christian martyrs, Saint Valentine, and was established by Pope Gelasius I in 500 AD. It was deleted from the Roman calendar of saints in 1969 by Pope Paul VI, but its religious observance is still permitted. It is traditionally a day on which lovers express their love for each other by presenting flowers, offering confectionery, and sending greeting cards (known as “valentines”). The day first became associated with romantic love in the circle of Geoffrey Chaucer in the High Middle Ages, when the tradition of courtly love flourished.

Modern Valentine’s Day symbols include the heart-shaped outline, doves, and the figure of the winged Cupid. Since the 19th century, handwritten valentines have given way to mass-produced greeting cards.
As Valentine’s Day approaches, men panic and scramble all over making reservations to expensive restaurants and buying obscenely overpriced roses from cutthroat flower merchants. Many men curse the existence of this day and many men does not understand the fuss over Valentine’s Day. Your significant half might also say that she does not understand the fuss either. But here’s the chocolate-covered rose-decorated catch:
She’s allowed to talk about how she dislikes Valentine’s Day and how fake and insincere this day is BUT still expects men to go the extra mile to celebrate it.
Double standard? You betcha. However, if men love their beloved to death, they have to suck it up on this one and line the pockets of unscrupulous merchants exploiting this ‘festive occasion’. Remember, even the most independent women have that secret part of themselves that loves romance. They don’t need to have it every day, but Valentine’s Day is the one day that allows them the one opportunity to indulge in otherwise cheesy rituals, and brag about it to their friends.

A word of advice to guys out there, NEVER underestimate the importance of Valentine’s Day. If you underestimate the importance of this day and failed to hit the proper heart-shaped mark with Cupid’s arrows, the wrath of your lady due to an obviously last-minute gift or imperfect day or you having forgotten the pesky day altogether or even any of a slew of other possible misdemeanors will cause you to be sleeping in the doghouse and cursing yourself for failing to properly worship at the altar of fat baby cherubs and overpriced flower bouquets.
While Valentine’s day is a celebration of love, there exists two school of thoughts that criticize the existence of Valentine’s Day (i.e. Antivalentinism), that is:
- Commercialism
- Forced observation
Commercialism
Many companies and businesses make large profits from selling massive amounts of cards, flowers, chocolates, candies, stuffed animals and any other gifts at inflated prices. The amount of gifts on sale leads those with a partner feeling that they are obligated to purchase such gifts whether they want to or not as everyone else is also doing so. Not conforming to social norms leads to uncomfortable arguments and the wrath of their significant other. Some people believe that this forced purchases takes away from the values, significance and meaning of Valentine’s Day. The same could also be said of other commercialized holidays (i.e. Christmas, Easter etc.)
Forced Observation
The criticism of forced observation of romantic love is based on the idea that if a person is forced by culture to profess or observe their love to another (especially on a universally agreed-upon day), or else suffer within the relationship as a consequence of not doing so, then there is no free will in said expression and thus it is not love. There also exists the objection to Valentine’s Day on the grounds that for romantically unattached people, Valentine’s Day is only a magnifier of the fact that they are unattached, quite possibly against their will and efforts.

Valentine’s day is historically a day to honor the martyrdom of a Christian saint named Valentine. His life has been largely lost in history and it’s no longer clear precisely what he did.
According to one story, Roman emperor Claudius II imposed a ban on marriages because too many young men were dodging the draft by getting married (as only single men had to enter the army). A Christian priest named Valentinus was caught performing secret marriages and sentenced to death. While awaiting execution, young lovers visited him with notes about how much better love is than war (i.e. the first “valentines”). The execution occurred in 269 CE on February 14th.
The other story tells of a priest named Valentinus was jailed for helping Christians. During his stay he fell in love with the jailer’s daughter and sent her notes signed “from your Valentine”. Some stories say that he first cured her eyesight (without which she couldn’t have read the notes) and thereby converted the jailer to Christianity. He was eventually beheaded and buried on the Via Flaminia. Pope Julius I reportedly built a basilica over this Valentine’s grave.

Personally, I feel that there is no reason to set up a special day to show the one you love how much you love them (that includes Mother’s Day and Father’s Day). If you are in love, you will show it, and show it often. As Valentine’s Day approaches, we are bombarded daily with advertising that says spend, spend, spend and spend even more to show your love. From my experiences of what true love really means, I see no reason to go on a spending spree one day a year, or any reason to splurge on a particular day.
We should show our love to our significant other whenever we feel it, and as often as we feel like doing so. We do not need to wait for this arbitrary ”special day” in February to show how much we care for our loved ones, when the happiest people on this “special day” are those companies making a fortune off the “special day” that is the same as any other day for two people in love. While I admit that I do not show how much I love and care for my wife everyday, and I am also guilty for forgetting about her from time to time, I believe that we should always endeavor to improve and show them just how much you care.
Although Valentine’s Day is an opportunity for lovers to rekindle their spirit of love for each other (not to say that their spirit ever faltered), I think that this holiday is clearly cheapened when it becomes “expected” for example to get a dozen roses, the most gourmet of chocolate candies, the fanciest greeting card (if you are female). I have seen (and been in) the biggest arguments, and have seen ladies with broken hearts because their lover isn’t capable of mind reading and thus presented disappointing tokens of their love.
With that being said, Valentine’s Day holds different meaning to different people. If your significant other places great emphasis and importance on this day, as their significant other, we must do all we can to make them happy for if we dearly love them, we will do everything in our power to make them happy despite our believes. After all, we would want the same thing to happen to us isn’t it In closing, regardless of your believes and how much importance you put on this day, I wish you all a very Happy Valentine’s Day.

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